2 x 2.25.10 x Re-do :-/

Ok. This project 365 is harder than i thought. So lets start again, shall we?

I'm in the process of a life makeover.

First, I'm single (all my single ladies!).

I danced to that song at the club for the first time the other night. I loved and hated it at the same time.

Second, my career is kicking into high gear.

Third, 'sall good. ;-)

Here we go. Again.

Today it snowed golf balls and I, like a silly goose, wore cute shoes.


These shoes were NOT made for walking (in ice). Still, I stumbled my way out of the Tribeca lofts and into the abyss where I wanna be.

I was an emotional wreck all day, and this came tumbling out of me...


I push front,
He falls back,
Two bodies braced for an attack.

I fall back,
He leans forth,
Spits nasty words to hit the source.

His blow connects,
I cringe in pain.
Now,
Things will never be the same.

My wounded mind says run away,
My wounded heart still wants to stay.

I push front,
Then I strike back.
Choose red words infused with facts.

He turns his face,
He didn't know.
His guards fall down like midnight snow.

I sense the breach,
As he falls back.
Again I tense for the attack.

Here we stand,
He and I.
No more secrets, no more lies.

I feel the moon has come to stay.
Forever midnight,
So ends this day.

As we fall back,
Into the abyss,
We reach for eachother,
But our arms miss.

I fall back,
As does he.
Falling to places we don't want to be.

"Are you there?",
I call into the night.
There is no answer,
We've both lost this fight.

"Where are you love?"
He shouts to the air,
There is no answer,
Forth comes the fear.

I am scared to face the dark,
He fears our love has missed it's mark.
But every darkness becomes light,
This cold dark night will soon be bright.

I fall back,
I let it burn,
Though for his comfort I sometimes yearn.

He moves forth,
In search of day,
Although Sometimes he'd like to stay.

I push forth
He falls back
We watch the fire fade to black.

A love is undone,
But hearts do mend,
We fought until the bitter end.

Already though,
I'm so ready to go,
Towards this beautiful tomorrow.

Its been a while since i played with words. I missed it.

Until tomorrow voyeurs.

xoLola

Are Black Women Winning The Battle Of The Sexes?

For a long time it was an understood rule that men were to be the breadwinners in their marriages.
While men were expected to "marry down" in terms of finances, women were inversely expected to "marry up," by finding the man most likely and able to out-earn, and take care of them. This has been the status-quo in our society for quite some time, though it seems that the tide is turning.

According to ABC News, a new trend is emerging, whereby women are marrying down, and choosing husbands that are not their superior or even their equal in terms of financial earnings, education and career potential. A new study by the Pew Research Center shows that 1 out of 5 American women out-earn their husband and almost 1 in 3 is better educated.

The study uses mega-couple Jay-Z and Beyonce as its example. Jay-Z made an impressive 35 million last year, but still, Beyonce nearly tripled that figure, pulling in an estimated 87 million.

The study goes on to say that marriage as a whole is an institution on the decline, particularly among African-Americans. While 62% of them between the ages of 30 and 44 were married in 1970, only 33% had tied the knot in 2007. In this case, the link between success and marriage is much more pronounced. One opinion in the ABC segment suggested that since Black women are attaining college degrees, climbing the corporate ladder and owning businesses more than ever before, the "number of comparable mates is slim."

Its official, the home really is no longer the man's castle; increasingly, its hers too.

What's your opinion on this study?

To watch the ABC News segment go here.